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Journal

If you find yourself Comparing Yourself to Others

The other day I watched a video of a five year old snowboarder that far surpassed my boarding skills. He was clearly a born natural with parents who encouraged his love of the sport. Gaia and I have occassionally tried snowboarding and we looked nothing like this kid. Of course, what you don’t see on his social media, were the hours spent on the mountain, the 5am wake-ups to make it to the hill, the inevitable break-downs and tears, the falls. The end product is always worth it, but there is so much in the middle that goes unseen.

Every day I am barraged on social media by sponsored posts “start traveling full time”, “how to make it as a writer”, and for a second my heart flutters and I think, “am I doing something wrong?” Why is social media constantly telling me I need to do more? Why am I seeing kids who snowboard better than me, people who travel the world full time, everyone smiling having fun, and here I am sitting in front of the computer trying to force out a few words?

When I first started blogging, it was with the intention of helping other families spend more quality time together. It never crossed my mind that it could make someone feel envious or inferior. It was purely to lift others up.

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Our excursions often start with an eye-catching photo. Maybe we find the photo in a magazine, the internet, or a friend shows us. Then we weigh everything out, and see how feasible it is. Each vacation is carefully calculated and executed, and almost every time, it doesn’t go exactly as planned. So I started writing because I thought that if that’s what helps me, maybe I can help others. Two years later, I’m still doing it! Same intentions, and hopefully the same outcome.

I recently received an email and one of the first lines was, “I admire your success…” I was juggling keeping the children in my house entertained and fed while attempting to get a few moments to answer emails when that notification came up. It really made me smile, like plastered across my face smile.

Your “I’m not good enough” will always be somebody’s “I wish I could do that.” Which is okay. I think it’s great to have goals. It’s healthy to seek growth. But the only comparison we should be doing is inward. How do we measure up to our own personal goals. Are we doing what makes us happy in life? We are all talented. Our talents are so unique and diverse.

So if you’re like me, and find yourself constantly trying to measure up to what you see on the internet- just stop. You are doing everything right. You are perfect just as you are. I see it, and now it’s time for you to see it.